Fourth Wedding Anniversary
[note: this was originally published on Styled Bits, but has been moved to here since I am no longer hosting my more personal writings there.]
Brooke and I celebrate our fourth wedding anniversary today [originally posted on September 24th, 2009], making it worthy of a little reflection.
Throughout this year, I have thought more and more about how much the ideas of love and marriage have varied from what I originally thought of them. When I was younger (and without a lot of experience) love was binary – you were either in love or you weren’t. I thought that marriage was sort of a way of saying that the switch has been on for long enough for both of us, proving that we’re a good fit, and that we’d therefore be great candidates for marriage.
But it’s far different from that. The best analogy I can come up with is that of the adytum or a temple; it is something that you actively build together. It’s multi-dimensional and living. It expands and contracts. I wish I had grasped that earlier, as it would have probably have made things easier for both of us. But I think I’m starting to see it now.
If I consider our love as a temple, with each and every action like a sacrament, something more appropriate and adult emerges. The foundations must be constantly tended to, repairing the weaker or broken parts if need be, before the Spirit can ever dwell within. Every act is Holy.
I look forward to our fifth and each one that follows.
